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When To Send Thank You Notes

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DIY: Flower Dyed Thank You Notes

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What to do with the once-glorious wedding garlands and bouquets after the big day? When they sadly begin to wilt, you can plunder those bouquets for the natural colorants to dye your thank- you cards! We used yarrow, marigold, and hollyhock to give these notecards a wash of delicate hues and confetti marks.

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Materials

• white notecards – look for 100% cotton or watercolor paper • masking fluid
• alum (aluminum sulfate or potassium aluminum sulfate)
• flowers, see below

• tray – enamel tray, lipped baking pan, or plastic bin • rolling pin or empty wine bottle

Flowers

Many plants and flowers contain the natural dye colorants, notably those with the species name “tinctoria” following their genus name. Here are some of the many options:

Chamomile
Coreopsis

Blackberry
Black Hollyhock Daffodil
Dahlia
Eucalyptus
Garland Chrysanthemum Golden Marguerite Goldenrod
Heather
Hibiscus
Ivy
Lady’s Mantle
Marigold
Queen Anne’s Lace Russian Sage
Sunflower
Tansy
Yarrow
Yellow Cosmos
Zinnia

Process

Using a stencil or your best calligraphic hand, write out your message on each card using masking fluid and a paintbrush.

Fill the tray with warm water, measuring as you go. Add 1 1/2 teaspoons alum per quart of water, stirring to dissolve. Submerge the notecards in the water one at a time, making sure there are no air bubble between them. Let stand for 20 minutes.

Fill a pot with the same quantity of water and bring to a boil. Remove the cards from the alum bath, and empty the tray. Scatter a layer of flower petals, whole blossoms, and leaves in the bottom of the tray, gently crushing them between your hands as you go. Cover this with a layer of notecards, and continue layering plants and notecards until the tray is full, ending with plants. Run the rolling pin over the contents to further crush the plants, releasing their dye.

Carefully pour the pot of hot water into the tray until the cards are covered, and watch as the color blossoms! Allow the dye bath to cool, 1 hour or overnight.

Remove the notecards from the bath one at a time, gently swishing though a pot of clear water to remove any plant material (though stubborn bits will easily come off when the cards are dry). Lay the cards out on a trash bag to dry, and when they are just barely still wet stack them beneath books to dry flat. Remove the masking fluid with your finger or an eraser.

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Wedding Thank You Notes Timeline

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                        Thank You Just Married Wedding Postcard 

Samantha asks…

What is the proper etiquette for sending out thank you cards? My bridesmaids are hosting a bridal shower for me just one month before my wedding date. Along with that, wedding gifts have already started to arrive! I know I am going to be swamped with wedding tasks in the coming weeks, and will have little time for thank you cards.

When do I need to send my thank you notes? Do you have any advice for making this to-do list item a little easier?

                       Thank You Red Rose Blank Greeting Card

A. This is a great question, Samantha. Writing thank you cards has become a dreaded task for many brides, when it really should be a pleasant activity.

First and foremost, it’s important to remember why you are writing these thank you notes – because you are surrounded by loving and caring individuals. Beyond the gifts they may give, you are really expressing thanks for your friends and family who have taken time out of their schedules (and, quite often, have spent money and effort to travel) to celebrate in your special day. Looking at your ever-growing thank you list in this mindset may help bring some joy to the task!

                                Thank You Damask Floral Postcard

I recommend sending thank you notes within two weeks of a bridal shower. Usually, your bridal shower is much smaller than your wedding guest list, so it will take less time to complete the thank you notes.

Proper etiquette for weddings is to send a thank you note within two months of your wedding.  But, thank you cards for your wedding gifts may be written as soon as they arrive. With wedding registries so prevalent, many modern brides receive the majority of their gifts in the weeks leading up to their wedding date – and it sounds like you are no exception. This is the perfect opportunity to get a head start on your thank you notes.

                           Thank You Photo Wedding Postcard

If you would prefer to send them after the wedding, photo thank you notes are a great option! Be sure to ask your photographer to send a few select photos immediately after the wedding, so you can order your thank you notes, write and address, and mail out to your guests in a timely manner.

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How To Write Thank You Notes

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Question: I have a crushing inability to write proper thank-you notes. Can you offer me some guidelines? –Helen

Answer: I was wondering when someone was going to ask that question. I assure you, writing thank-yous is easier than you remember. Get yourself some pretty cards or a selection of attractive postcards (yes, postcards are perfectly acceptable!), and proper postage.

There is a six-point formula to the proper thank-you: Learn it, know it, memorize it—and it will never fail you.

1. Greet the Giver

Dear Aunt Sally,

That’s the easy part, but you’d be surprised how many people forget it. People love to see their own names in ink. Blue is always the number-one choice, but black will suffice in a pinch. Don’t let a whimsical marker color be the most stunning part of your note: instead let the words sing without the amplification of rainbow hues. Even if your handwriting is poor, you must still hand-write your notes. Do not print them on a computer. No excuses.

2. Express Your Gratitude

Thank you so much for the slippers.

This first paragraph seems like it would be the easiest, but it is actually the most complicated. Beware the just writing trap. You are not ‘just writing to say’ as in I am just writing to say; that’s stating the obvious. If the giver is reading, clearly you have already written. Therefore use the present-perfect tense, which essentially means write as if whatever you say is happening in the moment.

Also—and this is important—never directly mention money. ‘Thank you for the hundred bucks’ could instead be ‘Thank you for your generosity.’ All cash denominations become ‘your generosity’ or ‘your kindness.’ If you feel the giver overspent, the farthest you can go is appreciated: ‘Your generosity is appreciated,’ or ‘It is such an extravagant gift—your kindness is appreciated.’

If you’re writing to thank someone for an intangible (such as them putting you up at their place while you were in town for the weekend), first define what the intangible thing is, and then make the gift sound as attractive as possible. In other words, don’t say: ‘Thanks for letting us crash at your place.’ Instead say: ‘Thank you for your hospitality.’ Don’t worry if it sounds too simple; the point of writing the note is to create a simple expression of a heartfelt sentiment.

3. Discuss Use

It gets very chilly here in the winter, so they will get a lot of use when winter comes.

Say something nice about the item and how you will use it. Let’s say it’s something you actually love and use incessantly—then say so: ‘Ever since I got the slippers I have only taken them off to shower and go to work. I’d wear them to the office if I thought I could get away with it.’

But don’t lie, even though some etiquette books may tell you it’s okay. After all, there’s always a truth that can be extracted. Let’s say you hate the slippers. How to say thanks? Find the one thing about them that’s nice and discuss it—but don’t get carried away. ‘They are such a lovely shade of blue’ works, and is more honest than ‘These slippers make my heart sing like a choir of angels,’ which is overkill. If it was a gesture, like letting you stay at their place, you can follow the lines of ‘It’s so nice to make a personal connection while traveling. I really appreciated my time with your family.’

If the gift was cash, allude to how you will use the money, but do not itemize your planned purchases line by line, instead simply say: ‘It will be a great help when we purchase our new home/toaster/lava lamp/whatever.’

You can get arty here, but not flowery. It’s a fine line. Small, realistic statements like ‘I put the flowers on the kitchen table and they are still looking fresh and beautiful after a week,’ or ‘I don’t know which is more fun, actually using the Cuisinart, or reading recipes and thinking I could do that in the Cuisinart!’ Having fun is alright, so have at it.

4. Mention the Past, Allude to the Future

It was great to see you at my wedding, and I hope to see you at Dad’s retirement in February.

Why did they give you the gift? What does it mean to your relationship with the giver? Let the giver know how they fit into the fabric of your life.If it’s someone you see infrequently, say whatever you know: ‘Mom tells me you’re doing great at Stanford, and I hope we cross paths soon.’ If it’s someone you’re in regular contact with: ‘I’ll call you soon, but I wanted to take time to say thanks.’ If it’s some errant family member you have little or no contact with, simply go with ‘You are in my thoughts and I hope you are well.’ Nice, right?

5. Grace

Thanks again for your gift.

It’s not overkill to say thanks again. So say it.

6. Regards

Love,
Leslie

Simply wrap it up. Use whatever works for you: Love, Yours Truly, With Love. Then sign your name and you’re done.

What’s Not There

Any news about your life. This isn’t the time to brag about your new job, a pregnancy, or a new house. The thank-you is exclusively about thanking somebody for their kindness. While you may want more than anything to show them once and for all you amounted to something, this is not the forum. Save that for your annual Christmas letter.

Now get it in the mail. Even if your friends and relatives aren’t of the note-writing variety, be the one who sets the precedent. Thank-you-note writing is one of the loveliest traditions to have been utterly compromised by the information age. Let’s start a movement to revive a little gracious living.

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Wedding Thank-You Notes: The Fill-in-the-Blank Edition

         

For a Friend of Your Parents

She’s known you since you were “this big,” so she’ll call your mother and tell her how lovely your note was. Make it thoughtful (even if you haven’t seen this family friend since the third grade).

Dear (NAME),

I can’t tell you how much I appreciate the (GIFT) you gave me and (NEW HUSBAND’S NAME). That was so generous and thoughtful. As I’m sure (MOM OR DAD) has told you, I’m really eager to (COOK MORE/DECORATE OUR NEW APARTMENT/ENTERTAIN MORE OFTEN/ETC.), so this will definitely come in handy.

It meant so much to me that you were able to come to the wedding. I loved being able to introduce (NEW HUSBAND’S NAME) to all of the family friends who have known me for years. He really enjoyed meeting you after hearing so much about you.

We hope you had a great time. Your (EXCEPTIONAL DANCING/HILARIOUS STORYTELLING ON THE VIDEO/HELP FINDING THE LOST FLOWER GIRL) won’t be forgotten!

Thanks again,

(YOUR NAME)        

For Your College Roommate or Best Friend

Her presence was more important than her present. Mention how much you appreciate her being there; the gift can be secondary.

Dear (NAME),

My wedding would not have been complete―or as much fun―without you. Thanks for (DRIVING EIGHT HOURS/BUYING A PLANE TICKET/RESCHEDULING YOUR VACATION) to be there. And thank you for the (TOAST/CRAZY THING YOU DID AT THE RECEPTION). I can always count on you to make me (LAUGH/CRY―IN A GOOD WAY).

I was so happy to open the (GIFT) you sent us. You know me too well! Of course I will use it to (BAKE THE BROWNIE RECIPE YOU GAVE ME/EAT LUCKY CHARMS, JUST LIKE COLLEGE/DECORATE THE GUEST ROOM SO YOU CAN COME VISIT). But having you with me on the big day was the best gift. How would I have (FOUND MY SHOES/DEALT WITH MY MOTHER-IN-LAW/FINALLY GOTTEN A GLASS OF CHAMPAGNE) without you?

Thank you for sticking by me and supporting me all these years.

Love,

(YOUR NAME)        

For The Random Person You Could’ve Sworn Was a Party Crasher

Keep it generic.

Dear (NAME),

I am really looking forward to using the (GIFT) you sent (NEW HUSBAND’S NAME) and me for our wedding. We have started (COOKING/DECORATING/ENTERTAINING) more since we got engaged, so this was a perfect gift. Thank you for thinking of us.

(NEW HUSBAND’S NAME) and I feel so lucky to have so many friends and family supporting us as we start our new life. We appreciate your being a part of it and for being so generous.

Hope you had fun at the wedding!

Thanks again,

(YOUR NAME)

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How To Write Wedding Thank You Notes - 15 Do’s and Don’ts

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There are two fundamentals of expressing gratitude. First every wedding gift should be acknowledged in writing. And second your acknowledgement should be prompt.

Personal handwritten thank-yous remain the gold standard of courtesy in the age of cellphones, computers, and instant messages. Written notes demonstrate that the writer cares enough about the giver to compose a personalized message and put words to paper.

This Do’s and Don’ts checklist should help you avoid common mistakes when expressing gratitude in your thank you notes:

* Do personalize your notes, making reference to the person as well as the gift.

* Do sign your significant other’s name along with your own even though you wrote the note.

* Do write thank-you notes to everyone who showed you kindness. The neighbor who accepts your wedding gifts while your at work, the cousin who supervises guest parking at the reception, anyone who helped with wedding preparations should be graciously thanked.

* Don’t use cheap store-bought generic cards as it shows very little consideration. You don’t need to purchase expensive thank you notes, but cards should be on decent quality paper—avoid your local dollar store!

* Do be enthusiastic, but you don’t need to gush. Avoid saying that a gift is the most beautiful thing you have ever seen, unless you really mean it.

* Don’t send form letters or cards with printed messages and just your signature; don’t use email or post generic thank-yous on your wedding website in lieu of personal notes.

* Do send a note after the wedding to everyone in your bridal party thanking them for helping make your day so special.

* Don’t mention that you plan to return or exchange a gift or indicate dissatisfaction in any way.

* Don’t tailor notes to the perceived value of gifts. No one should receive a dashed-off, perfunctory note.

* Do refer to the use you will make of money gifts. Mentioning the amount is optional.

* Don’t include wedding photos or use photo cards if this will delay sending notes.

* Do remember that a gift should be acknowledged with the same courtesy and generous spirit in which it was given.

* Don’t use lateness in writing your notes as an excuse not to write. If you’re still sending thank-you notes after your first anniversary, keep writing.

* Do send a note of thanks to any vendor who went above and beyond your expectations as it will be greatly appreciated.

* Do send you parents a heartfelt Thank you note after you return from your honeymoon.

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Thank you note Etiquette

Dear Ashlee

Please resolve an etiquette question between me and my fiancé. My fiancé and I are getting married soon. I have purchased some pretty thank you cards so that I can quickly send off thank you notes as soon as the gifts arrive.

Recently it occurred to me that perhaps it is necessary to write thank you notes for all our guests attending the wedding even if it he/she has not given us a gift. If not for his/her presence alone, would it be required to write a thank you note if the guest has traveled to attend our wedding?

I feel as though the presence of all of our guests is a gift, and therefore everyone in attendance should receive a thank you card whether they give us a gift or not. My fiancé believes this way of thinking is excessive. Is he right?

Liz

Dear Liz,
In the midst of a thank you letter famine, I loathe to label any such attempt as excessive. But yes, your fiancé is right. Hosts do not write to thank guests for their attendance.

Beware if you send thank you notes to people who attended your wedding without sending you a gift they may be suspicious and think your trying to prompt them to send you a gift. While not accusing you of any such motives,  I warn you that the suspicion will arise.

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Bride’s Thank You Guide

10 Do’s and Don’ts of Thank You Note Writing 
1. Do handwrite your thank you notes.
2. Don’t e-mail, type, text or call in place of thank you notes.
3. Do write sincere notes with a personal tone.
4. Don’t mention if a gift was a duplicate or if you plan to return it.
5. Do mention specifics about the gift and how you plan to use it.
6. Do fake it! Uncertain about what the gift is? Write a note that’s vague but heartfelt.
7. Don’t mention if the gift doesn’t match your style or décor.
8. Do mention how you plan to spend gifts of money.
9. Don’t mention dollar amounts or the form in which money was given.
10. Do send thank you notes to everyone involved in the wedding (bridal party, vendors, officiant, etc.). Also don’t forget to send to your siblings, parents etc for any help or gifts they gave you.
***If you need more help on how to word your Thank You notes, the Bride’s Thank You Guide is a great resource. I give a copy of this little guide to all of my clients.

Bride’s Thank You Guide

10 Do’s and Don’ts of Thank You Note Writing

1. Do handwrite your thank you notes.

2. Don’t e-mail, type, text or call in place of thank you notes.

3. Do write sincere notes with a personal tone.

4. Don’t mention if a gift was a duplicate or if you plan to return it.

5. Do mention specifics about the gift and how you plan to use it.

6. Do fake it! Uncertain about what the gift is? Write a note that’s vague but heartfelt.

7. Don’t mention if the gift doesn’t match your style or décor.

8. Do mention how you plan to spend gifts of money.

9. Don’t mention dollar amounts or the form in which money was given.

10. Do send thank you notes to everyone involved in the wedding (bridal party, vendors, officiant, etc.). Also don’t forget to send to your siblings, parents etc for any help or gifts they gave you.

***If you need more help on how to word your Thank You notes, the Bride’s Thank You Guide is a great resource. I give a copy of this little guide to all of my clients.

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