Q. As the best man, it’s my responsibility to deliver the ceremony fees. What is the proper way to make these payments?
A. Fees for the officiant, the organist, the soloist, and the use of the church or other house of worship are not tips but should be delivered as you would tips, in sealed envelopes, addressed to each person, with the couple’s “thanks” included. The groom will supply you with the money to cover the fees. Some grooms prefer to make the payments directly themselves, but most rely on the best man to distribute the envelopes.