When I ask people to describe the most unique weddings they’ve ever attended, I’m always surprised that they can usually think of no more than one or two.

Here’s my top list on how to create a unique wedding or event using a few key reception ideas:

1. Flow is extremely important. Make sure you have enough servers so that your guests are never kept waiting. No one wants to stand in a long line at the bar or buffet.

2. Everyone loves a great band or DJ,but if the music is too loud guests won’t be able to converse without screaming at each other. A few seconds of screaming and your guests will start to hate the music. Early in the evening, keep the music at a low volume. Later in the night, pump up the volume to get everyone dancing. It will make all the difference for your reception.

3. Try to avoid too many long speeches, and keep the microphone away from any family members who are likely to drink too much. All of the important speeches should be given at the rehearsal diner the night before.

4. Pace your mealso that everyone gets each course at the same time. There’s nothing worse than when some tables are finishing their course while others are still waiting to be served.

5. Your wedding is not the Superbowl. Make sure that your wedding decor includes dim lighting, which will create an intimate and romantic environment. Candles help, too.

6. Speaking of which, candles generate heat. You don’t want your event space to feel like an oven in the warmer months. Keep the air conditioner a bit higher than usual to balance the heat.

7. As for wedding reception decorations, remember to leave enough room for your table settings (people need those glasses and plates!) No one enjoys eating at a table that is overcrowded. 

8. We live in a culture that believes the more alcohol that is consumed, the better the party. However, if one of your guests drinks too much he or she may become mean or disruptive. If this happens, don’t hesitate to ask the person to leave, and if the individual won’t leave, you should have him or her removed.